This is a about an issue that bothers me. I was in India for a vacation, and caught a bus to go to my mum's place, and noticed that women don't even want to claim their rights.
I am not a women's rights person by any means, but social injustice is social injustice. Read this post - it's shameful that this kind of thing is so common in India.
July 14, 2005
I was standing in a sparsely filled bus, when someone tapped me from behind and asked me to sit down.
The seat was marked 'for ladies', but another man was already sitting in one of the two seats. I looked around, there were no standing women, so I sat down.
At a later stop, some women got in. None of them were old, and none of them were pregnant or had a child, which means they all looked fairly capable of standing in the bus without too much suffering.
As a general rule I give up a ladies seat to a woman if I find her standing, irrespective of whether she's 'able of standing' or not. It's more of a 'sticking to rules' thing than a chivalry thing, I wouldn't give up a men's seat to a woman who I judge as 'able to stand'.
But I couldn't have offered the seat to any of the ladies.
Here's why - none of them were interested in sitting down. They were all looking in another direction, and to offer to seat to any one of them I would have to attract their attention. I wasn't keen to bring attention to myself - especially in India.
And secondly, even if I
had got one of those ladies interested in the seat, the chances if her taking it was next to nil, simply because the co-passenger beside me had no intention of offering his seat up, which the standard bus-traveling Indian woman, would have to be very brave to take a seat beside an unknown man.
Now here's the question.
A woman should be interested in occupying a seat reserved for her, right? Why would she ignore it? Is she so used to the sight of men occupying a woman's seat that it doesn't bother her anymore? My experience was only a 15 minute ride in the bus where I was wondering about this whole issue, but I am sure this is representative of a whole lot of other - and perhaps more serious problems.
If social change requires
everyone to change, then it is going to be very very difficult to do, and will take a long time. We are a very large and a very culturally mixed people, and I suppose there is no precedent in the world for a country as diverse as ours. How do we change as a whole?
Meanwhile, if you are an Indian woman, I am genuinely interested in knowing what you would have done in a similar situation. Would you ignore that a man was sitting in a ladies seat? Would you have asked the man to stand up? What if the man refused to stand up? Would you have talked to the conductor? What if the conductor didn't help?
Oh, and I didn't get up from that seat. Guilty as charged.